Black Folk Don’t Do Therapy

therapy, psychology, emotional health, mental health, black people, emotions, poetry, poetry community, angry black man, angry black woman, healing, slavery, post traumatic stress syndrome, post traumatic slave syndrome, showing emotions is a luxury, black lives matter

One of my goals this year is to dive into black poetry and literature at a whole ‘nother level. Doing so has helped me in healing, as well as being able to aide me in one of my current book projects: writing a 300 page poetry book.

As with any particular group of people, you can’t assume that what works for one, works for all. As a whole, there is a stigma behind black people doing therapy. This poem deals with that stigma, and hopefully will get some of us to open up at a deeper level. Due to blacks having to suppress their emotions way back from slavery times, it is both difficult, and deemed as unsafe for them to show their emotions in front of others.

therapy, psychology, emotional health, mental health, black people, emotions, poetry, poetry community, angry black man, angry black woman, healing, slavery, post traumatic stress syndrome, post traumatic slave syndrome, showing emotions is a luxury, black lives matter

The reality of the situation is that when blacks show emotions, particularly that of anger, we are labeled as the angry black man or woman, having a higher chance of the police being called. What is natural for others is a luxury when it comes to black people, and demonstrating emotions goes along with that.

I hope that this poem gives you some food for thought. I would love to start a discussion down below on your experience growing with emotions, and how it was handled. Be blessed!

Black Folk Don’t Do Therapy

Black folk don’t do therapy

We pray and we cry

Yep we cry in private

But in public our tears run dry.

Black folk don’t do therapy

We’re strong as a people

We just slay in the Spirit

Till our Prayers hit the steeple

Black folk don’t do therapy

We just hope and we pray

That our unhealed

Brokenness

Will up and leave us some day

Black folk don’t do therapy

‘Cause we think it’s a sin

If we bring down from

bondage

Generations had to win

Black folk must do therapy

‘Cause then we can negate

Ev’ry game that’s been

Played

‘Gainst the enemy

Called hate.

Black folk must do therapy

Till we break all devices

That’s been sewn

Into seeds.

Then planted

With preciseness

Black folk must do therapy

So our kids

Will one day see

That our growth,

Faith, and healing

Was a bicycle

Made For me.

Black History Part 2

Black History Part 1

Episode 96: An Interview with Jennifer Uren

this mom knows; emotional health; mental health; healing our brokenness podcast; timothy horton; katina horton; healing; psychology; connection; parenting; brokenness
Healing Our Brokenness
Episode 96: An Interview with Jennifer Uren
/

On yesterday, I had the pleasure of interviewing This Mom Knows’ podcast host, Jennifer Uren. Our conversation was enlightening, filled with wisdom, and that of comfortability. If you are a mother, you know how daunting the task of motherhood can be. The first walk down that street is usually the hardest. At least that is what everyone says; that the first child is an experiment, so to speak, and then we have it from there.

this mom knows; emotional health; mental health; healing our brokenness podcast; timothy horton; katina horton; healing; psychology; connection; parenting; brokenness
Jennifer Uren, This Mom Knows Podcast Host

What if you had a parenting manual with the whole thing figured out before you even started the journey? Wouldn’t we all be happier for it! Jen and I discussed this very thing, along with several other topics listed down below. If you missed the last podcast interview with Alison Simmons, you can grab that one here.

Here are the links to the last two podcast episodes in general (You might want to check these out with it being the last day of black history month.) Bless ya! :

Black History Part 1

Black History Part 2

An Interview with Jennifer Uren Topics

  • What Does Being a Mom Really Mean?
  • What Makes a Good Podcaster?
  • Relationships
  • Parenting
  • Procrastinating
  • Task-Oriented people
  • Traditions
  • Podcasting
  • Personal Questions
  • Parenting Styles
  • Differences Between Podcasting and Writing
  • Brokenness
  • Healed and Unhealed Brokenness
  • How Brokenness Affects Our Work

Sign Up for This Mom Knows podcast!

At Valley of Grace, we believe in thriving. In order to thrive, we have to begin grounding ourselves in our identity. The first step in making this happen, is dealing with the effects of our childhood wounds. Click here to get started in Online Therapy today.****This is an amazon affiliate link where a commission is paid to offsite the cost of providing this information to you.

Episode 95: Black History Part 2

black history, black author, black literature, down South, Memphis, Lorraine Motel, Dr. King, marching, freedom, whites, blacks, emotional health, PTSD, whites only, blacks only, podcaster, podcasting
Healing Our Brokenness
Episode 95: Black History Part 2
/

Today’s episode, Black History Part 2, takes you back and forth through a history of racism, spirituality, and how they all stretch back to the cross. In case you missed Part 1, you can catch that one here.

black history, black author, black literature, down South, Memphis, Lorraine Motel, Dr. King, marching, freedom, whites, blacks, emotional health, PTSD, whites only, blacks only, podcaster, podcasting
Episode 95: Black History Part 2

Black History Part 2 -Poetry Readings

  • You’re Black
  • Black Folk Don’t do Therapy
  • Cry
  • Empathy, Empathy
  • I Am the Vine, and so is it Time?
  • Hairy Sandwiches
  • He Speaks
  • Black Beauty Supply Store
  • And Many More

Furthermore, I have heard the groaning of the Israelites, whom the Egyptians are enslaving, and I have remembered My covenant. 6Therefore tell the Israelites: ‘I am the LORD, and I will bring you out from under the yoke of the Egyptians and deliver you from their bondage. I will redeem you with an outstretched arm and with mighty acts of judgment. 7I will take you as My own people, and I will be your God. Then you will know that I am the LORD your God, who brought you out from under the yoke of the Egyptians.…

Exodus 6: 5-7

At Valley of Grace, we believe in thriving. In order to thrive, we have to begin grounding ourselves in our identity. The first step in making this happen, is dealing with the effects of our childhood wounds. Click here to get started in Online Therapy today.****This is an amazon affiliate link where a commission is paid to offsite the cost of providing this information to you.

Episode 94: Black History Part 1

black history, black author, black literature, down South, Memphis, Lorraine Motel, Dr. King, marching, freedom, whites, blacks, emotional health, PTSD, whites only, blacks only, podcaster, podcasting
Healing Our Brokenness
Episode 94: Black History Part 1
/

This week’s episodes are focusing on Black History month and Black Literature. In this episode, I am doing a reading from “The Journey”. You are able to get a picture of what it was to live in the South in the 1960’s, along with the dynamics of being black. I hope that you enjoy this reading, and that something that is read will resonate with your soul as you listen to Black History Part 1.

black history, black author, black literature, down South, Memphis, Lorraine Motel, Dr. King, marching, freedom, whites, blacks, emotional health, PTSD, whites only, blacks only, podcaster, podcasting

Black History Part 1 Outline

  • Importance of Stories
  • Importance of Acceptance of Our Stories
  • My Story
  • Living in the South
  • Civil Rights
  • The Great Migration

Exodus 6:5-7

Furthermore, I have heard the groaning of the Israelites, whom the Egyptians are enslaving, and I have remembered My covenant. 6Therefore tell the Israelites: ‘I am the LORD, and I will bring you out from under the yoke of the Egyptians and deliver you from their bondage. I will redeem you with an outstretched arm and with mighty acts of judgment. 7I will take you as My own people, and I will be your God. Then you will know that I am the LORD your God, who brought you out from under the yoke of the Egyptians.…

Episode 93: An Interview with Grace Over Perfection’s Podcast Host Alison Simmons

Sign up for Grace Over Perfection’s Podcast

At Valley of Grace, we believe in thriving. In order to thrive, we have to begin grounding ourselves in our identity. The first step in making this happen, is dealing with the effects of our childhood wounds. Click here to get started in Online Therapy today.****This is an amazon affiliate link where a commission is paid to offsite the cost of providing this information to you.

Episode 93: An Interview with Alison Simmons

Alison Simmons, grace over perfection host, episode 93, katina horton, podcasting, podcaster, podcasting community, divorce, marriage, parenting, perfectionism, grace, failure, women, minstry, healing our brokenness, healing our brokenness podcast
Healing Our Brokenness
Episode 93: An Interview with Alison Simmons
/

Hello all, and happy Thursday! Two weeks ago, I did an interview with Alison Simmons. And for those of you who are unfamiliar with her, Alison is a mother, Woman of God, Blogger, and the podcast host of Grace Over Perfection.

By the time we finished talking, I felt like I’d had a three-in-one session of therapy, support group, and sisterly fellowship. God is like that, giving us what we need when we need it. I hope that you re as blessed as I was when you tune into this interview.

Alison Simmons, grace over perfection host, episode 93, katina horton, podcasting, podcaster, podcasting community, divorce, marriage, parenting, perfectionism, grace, failure, women, minstry, healing our brokenness, healing our brokenness podcast

An Interview with Alison Simmons Topics

  • Podcasting
  • Roadblocks
  • Podcasting vs. Writing
  • Inspiration
  • Unique Knowlege/Expertise
  • Life Story
  • What Brokenness Means
  • Effects of Healed and UnHealed Brokenness on Podcasting
  • Community Help
  • Home
  • Requirements for Podcasting
  • Marriage
  • Divorce
  • Podcasting Genres
  • Fun Questions

And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threestrand cord is not quickly broken.

Ecclesiastes 4:12

Other podcasting interviews:

An Interview with Crystal Daye-Part 1
An Interview with Crystal Daye-Part 2

Crystal’s book

At Valley of Grace, we believe in thriving. In order to thrive, we have to begin grounding ourselves in our identity. The first step in making this happen, is dealing with the effects of our childhood wounds. Click here to get started in Online Therapy today.****This is an amazon affiliate link where a commission is paid to offsite the cost of providing this information to you.

Episode 92: An Interview with Crystal Daye-Part 2

crystal daye, brand strategist, identity, writing, podcasting, podcaster, christian author, award-winning author, international speaker, grounded in your identity, business, books, purpose, passion, lifestyle blog, katina horton, healing our brokenness podcast, episode 91
Healing Our Brokenness
Episode 92: An Interview with Crystal Daye-Part 2
/

Last week, I did an interview with Crystal Daye, a firehouse, on a mission from God. Crystal and I talked about so many different things. And as we carried on our conversation, we lifted each other up in the Spirit.

In case you missed part 1, check it out here. Don’t forget your pen and paper as you listen to Part 2, An Interview with Crystal Daye. Be blessed!

crystal daye, brand strategist, identity, writing, podcasting, podcaster, christian author, award-winning author, international speaker, grounded in your identity, business, books, purpose, passion, lifestyle blog, katina horton, healing our brokenness podcast, episode 91
Author Crystal Daye

An Interview with Crystal Daye Podcast Outline

  • Grounded in Identity
  • Purpose and Passion
  • Healed and Unhealed Brokenness
  • How Brokenness Affects Podcasters
  • Community and Brokenness
  • Requirements for a Good Podcaster
  • Webinar
  • Home
  • Fun Things

Crystal’s new book: Dear Insecurity

Crystal’s podcast: Diary of a Jesus Girl

God bless!

Katina

Episode 91: An Interview with Crystal Daye-Part 1

crystal daye, brand strategist, identity, writing, podcasting, podcaster, christian author, award-winning author, international speaker, grounded in your identity, business, books, purpose, passion, lifestyle blog, katina horton, healing our brokenness podcast, episode 91
Healing Our Brokenness
Episode 91: An Interview with Crystal Daye-Part 1
/

Crystal Daye, an author, speaker, and podcaster is my next guest on the show. And when I tell you that the experience was out of this world, it was. When the interview was over, I was ready for some serious Holy Ghost shouting.

There were so many good nuggets in this interview. Before you listen, you will want to grab a pen and some paper, and take notes on her Holy-Spirit inspired message. Remember, this is black history month, and I want to support my black sisters and brothers in the industry. Please check out Crystal’s new book: Dear Insecurity on Amazon Enjoy!

crystal daye, brand strategist, identity, writing, podcasting, podcaster, christian author, award-winning author, international speaker, grounded in your identity, business, books, purpose, passion, lifestyle blog, katina horton, healing our brokenness podcast, episode 91
Crystal Daye

Crystal’s Bio:

Crystal Daye is an award-winning author, international speaker, certified empowerment coach for life and business and Jesus Girl, who has mentored and coached countless women of all ages. As a Brand Strategist and COO of DayeLight Publishers, she helps women of faith and solopreneurs to maximize their message through writing books and launching profitable empowerment-based businesses. Due to growing up in poverty, Crystal was told that she would never be successful; she became resolute to not settle for mediocrity but instead she uses her story to impact lives all over the world. 

After living a life of partying, poverty, promiscuity, being abused and struggling with feelings of inadequacy, she encountered Jesus Christ in the midst of her brokenness. She now passionately empowers women to live wholesome godly lives through her books, coaching programs and her podcast called “Diary Of A Jesus Girl”. Crystal enjoys cooking, traveling and spending time with her beautiful daughter Christelle.

An Interview with Crystal Daye Podcast Outline

  • Podcasting
  • Roadblocks
  • Podcasting vs. Writing
  • Diary of a Jesus Girl
  • Uniqueness
  • Identity
  • Grounding

Last podcast interview with Erin Thompson

Part 1

Part 2

Practical Ways to Put Self-Care in Your Life (and Why You Should Do It)

practicing self-care, lifestyle blogger, katina horton, therapy, psychology, emotional health, mental health, wellness, routine, motivation, simple functional grace-filled living

Happy Saturday all! Today, I am featuring a guest blog post from fellow blogger Gabriel Patel. He enjoys writing about health and wellness, and co-founded Health Well Wise with a group of friends who share the desire to help people live happy, healthy lives. ***************

Self-Care Defined

When we practice self-care regularly, it works wonders for our mental and emotional health. It can boost our self-esteem because it’s a way to prove to ourselves that our bodies and minds are worth taking care of. It can enhance our self-awareness and reveal to us new interests and passions. Self-care fosters self-improvement and help us to be more productive and able to care for others.

practicing self-care, lifestyle blogger, katina horton, therapy, psychology, emotional health, mental health, wellness, routine, motivation, simple functional grace-filled living
Image by Unsplash

In short, self-care is exactly what the term suggests: caring for the “self” so that you can be healthier, happier, and more effective in your everyday life. And the best part about it is that self-care is not some out-of-reach aspiration; there are practical ways to work self-care into your regular routine. Here are some ideas from Valley of Grace to get you started:

Eat with Health in Mind

Diet is one thing that keeps a lot of people from enjoying everyday health and well-being. But nutrition is the fuel your body and mind run on, and what you put into your body matters. Cutting back on processed foods and sugary drinks and opting for more whole foods in your diet can make a world of difference. There are even certain foods that can help you fight depression, such as avocados, beans, bananas, sweet potatoes, and fatty fish.

Focus Your Fitness

Aside from the obvious physical health benefits, regular exercise can go a long way in improving your mental and emotional health, and it has a way of motivating you to make other healthy decisions in your everyday routine. Consider HIIT, which enables you to get in intense, effective workouts in a shorter amount of time than many other forms of exercise. In fact, even a 7-minute workout can activate endorphins in your brain and provide you with energy for the rest of your day!

One of the best ways you can track your progress and keep yourself motivated is to utilize fitness apps. To get the most out of your apps, you’ll need a high-functioning smartphone. If your device is more than a few years old, many wireless providers offer discounted smartphones when their customers trade in their older models.

See a Counselor

Seeking help from a counselor can also make a big difference in your everyday life, as you can likely find a counselor who specializes in whatever you are struggling with. Since appointments can add up over time, be sure to review your insurance to see if counseling visits are covered. But note this can be tricky for seniors depending on coverage. For instance, Medicare Part B usually covers the costs of some mental health services. Regardless of your age, policies often change each year, so stay on top of your coverage so that you can modify it if necessary.

Make an Appointment with Yourself

Finally, it’s essential to schedule time with yourself; otherwise, it’s not likely to happen. This includes making time to care for your personal hygiene and enjoying relaxing activities—whether that means getting a massage or facial, going for a hike, or starting a hobby.

This also includes your sleep schedule. Prioritize your sleep like you do work, school, or any other activity in your life. Come up with a relaxing bedtime routine, and go to bed and wake up at the same times each day. When your mind and body are well-rested, it will make a significant difference in how you feel overall, and it will help you to be more productive with your days.

If you want to improve your mental health and well-being, start by finding ways to practice self-care in your everyday life. Pay attention to the foods you eat and find quick, effective workouts to add to your routine. Look for a counselor who can help guide you through your struggles, and schedule time for yourself to ensure that relaxation and sleep are a part of your life.

*******

This post contains affiliate links, which means that if items are purchased, I will receive a commission that will help to offsite the expenses incurred from maintaining this website.

Episode 90: What is your identity in?

Episode 90, identity, podcaster, podcasting, podcast community, focus, existential crisis, healing, healing our brokenness, katina horton, psychology, spiritual health, PTSD, trauma
Healing Our Brokenness
Episode 90: What is your identity in?
/

Have you ever considered the answer to the question, “What is your identity in?” I have heard it many of times over the years; these times were in church, small groups, sermons, and podcasts on the radio. If we were all thinking about the answer to this question, it would probably entail more than one thing. Listen up as we talk about this very concept on today’s podcast. If you missed “An Interview with Erin Thompson Part 1 or Part 2, you still have time to catch up. Have a blessed rest of your Wednesday.

Episode 90, identity, podcaster, podcasting, podcast community, focus, existential crisis, healing, healing our brokenness, katina horton, psychology, spiritual health, PTSD, trauma
Photo by Samantha Hurley at Shopify

Podcast Outline

  • Professional Titles
  • Relationship Titles
  • Attachment to Things and People
  • How Identity is Affected by Trauma
  • What We Naturally Do As Human Beings

Therefore we are ambassadors for Christ, as though God were making His appeal through us. We implore you on behalf of Christ: Be reconciled to God. God made Him who knew no sin to be sin on our behalf, so that in Him we might become the righteousness of God.

2 Corinthians 5:21

At Valley of Grace, we believe in thriving. In order to thrive, we have to begin grounding ourselves in our identity. The first step in making this happen, is dealing with the effects of our childhood wounds. Click here to get started in Online Therapy today.****This is an amazon affiliate link where a commission is paid to offsite the cost of providing this information to you.

Episode 89: An Interview with Erin Thompson Part 2

An Interview with Erin Thompson on identity, change, scars, wounds, moving, writing, etc.
Healing Our Brokenness
Episode 89: An Interview with Erin Thompson Part 2
/

An Interview with Erin Thompson Introduction

Yesterday, I posted part 1 of the interview that I had with Woman of God, Bible Teacher, and Author Erin Thompson. If you missed that episode, click here. Today, I will dig into part two of that conversation. Grab a pen and piece of paper to take notes as Erin continues to share her heart and soul with us.

An Interview with Erin Thompson on identity, change, scars, wounds, moving, writing, etc.
Erin Thompson, Bible Teacher, Author, Woman of God

An Interview with Erin Thompson Part 2 Outline

  • Current Writing Projects
  • What is a Good Writer
  • Failure
  • Mapping Out and Writing a Bible Studay
  • Authenticity
  • Helping From an Area of Brokenness
  • Scars and Wounds
  • Definition of Identity
  • Bonus Fun Questions

Erin Thompson’s Website

Online Therapy

I am a believer of therapy to the fullest. By clicking the link above, you will be taken to an online therapy site. If you purchase from this link, I will receive a commission through Online Therapy’s affiliate market program to help in handling the expenses and logistics of this site.