Episode 16: The Comparison Trap

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Episode 16: The Comparison Trap
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In case you missed our last podcast episode, The Sin of Complaining, you can find it here. Today’s podcast deals with the Comparison Trap. It is the issue that is ripping families, churches, and friendships apart. Yet, we still can’t seem to find a way to get out of it. Let’s explore the topic a little bit further to see how destructive it can be, and what solutions we can implement in order to get out of it.

Outline of The Comparison Trap Podcast

  • I’ll Take Your Man
  • I Can Have More Babies Than You
  • Created in God’s Image
  • Maximizing my Gifts/Talents
  • Minimizing my Gifts/Talents
  • How Does God View The Comparison Trap
  • Solutions to the Comparison Trap
  • Bible Verses to Meditate On
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Psalm 8 King James Version (KJV)

O Lord, our Lord, how excellent is thy name in all the earth! who hast set thy glory above the heavens.

Out of the mouth of babes and sucklings hast thou ordained strength because of thine enemies, that thou mightest still the enemy and the avenger.

When I consider thy heavens, the work of thy fingers, the moon and the stars, which thou hast ordained;

What is man, that thou art mindful of him? and the son of man, that thou visitest him?

For thou hast made him a little lower than the angels, and hast crowned him with glory and honour.

Thou madest him to have dominion over the works of thy hands; thou hast put all things under his feet:

All sheep and oxen, yea, and the beasts of the field;

The fowl of the air, and the fish of the sea, and whatsoever passeth through the paths of the seas.

O Lord our Lord, how excellent is thy name in all the earth!

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I’m in Control: The Struggle Between Two Wills

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I’m in Control was written to give you a picture of the struggle that exists when we forget that God is the one who is ultimately in charge of our lives. The poem is written as if the words are coming from God himself.

I’m In Control

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I’m in control.

I threw in the obstacle.

You made all the plans.

As if you were IMPOSSIBLE.

Preparing your heart, your mind, to make you bold.

Those emergencies keep coming.

They won’t rip through your soul.

See, when I give you your desires it will be my best.

Hold on to your seat.

This is just a test.

Other poems

Comfort of Worship

Why Not Me?

8 Truths to Pass On to Our Older Children

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Background on 8 Truths:

If we are parents, we know that at some time or another we will have to face the time of our children going away to college, and/or moving out on their own. It is during this time that we will wonder if they will remember all the truths and wisdom they have been taught. Then, our second concern is whether they will implement these truths in their lives. In this post, I am breaking down eight truths that we can pass on to our college bound/young adult children.

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God is our only constant. Your life is going to be filled with a ton of surprises. You will say hello to new classes and then goodbye to old classes. Friends will come and go. Some friends will be around forever, and then others will be there for a season. You will disappoint others, and others will disappoint you. You may have to move several times in your life after having gotten comfortable in the perfect location that God placed you in. The one constant that we have is our solid rock Jesus. He will be the stable foundation that is there when nothing and no one else is.
Jesus Christ the same yesterday, and to day, and for ever. (Hebrews 13:8, KJV)

God’s timing is best. You will make tons of plans. They will be picture perfect. You will have dotted all of your I’s and crossed all of your T’s. Your plans may not work out. God isn’t ready for it to happen yet. Either he is preparing other people to work along with you, or he is preparing you and your heart to work along with other people. Ecclesiastes 3:1 There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11

God will use the good and the bad, even when we don’t make the best choices. As Christians, we are sinners that are saved by the grace of God. And thus, even when we mess up, and we will because we are not perfect, God will use everything for his glory. “And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.” Romans 8:28

God’s word will keep you on the straight and narrow. It will be tempting to skip out on reading God’s word. However, God’s word will hold you up in life when nothing else will. It never changes. It is living and active, and sharper than a two-edged sword. It is music and a minister of truth to our souls. It will give you direction when you are feeling lost. Psalm 119:105 Thy Word Is a Lamp Unto My Feet and Light Unto My Path.

God is enough. It will appear that everything else in this life will fill your empty, craving soul. You will think that if you only get this one thing that it will make you happy. You will find out that only God can. When you try to fill your soul with other people and other things, it will leave you feeling emptier and emptier until you fill yourself up with Christ, and then God will make everything else a bonus.
And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19

God’s grace covers us, but we can’t avoid the consequences of our actions. Whether we are planting good seed or bad seed, fruit will be the end result of our actions. God doesn’t give us consequences because he hates us. He does it because he loves us and he knows what’s best for us. Galatians 6:7 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.

Everything that we have belongs to God, even our money. We may think that because we worked hard, it means that everything that we have is ours. We are only the managers. God is the owner of it all. He wants us to be good stewards over everything that we own. When we put God first, he blesses and honors that.
The earth is the Lord’s, and everything in it, the world, and all who live in it; Psalms 24:1, NIV

Keep yourself grounded in the Body of Christ(church community). It will be tempting to isolate yourself when you are going through things. The body of Christ will be there to be the hands and feet of Jesus, along with helping to restore you back to him.

God bless,

Katina

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Comfort of Worship

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There are times when life is challenging. There is no other way to put it. However, when we spend time alone in worship with the Savior, it changes everything. Enter his wings tonight! Feel his presence surround you as we prepare to enter the weekend. God bless!

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Comfort of Worship

Let me hide in your shadow.

In your wings.

Quite unrattled.

Let me worship in your glory.

Till I make it my own story.

Let me feel your connection.

Through your spirit.

It’s protection.

When the storm seems too much,

Fill my cup.

Need your touch.

Bible Passage to Meditate On:

Psalm 91 King James Version (KJV)

91 He that dwelleth in the secret place of the most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty.

I will say of the Lord, He is my refuge and my fortress: my God; in him will I trust.

Surely he shall deliver thee from the snare of the fowler, and from the noisome pestilence.

He shall cover thee with his feathers, and under his wings shalt thou trust: his truth shall be thy shield and buckler.

Thou shalt not be afraid for the terror by night; nor for the arrow that flieth by day;

Nor for the pestilence that walketh in darkness; nor for the destruction that wasteth at noonday.

A thousand shall fall at thy side, and ten thousand at thy right hand; but it shall not come nigh thee.

Only with thine eyes shalt thou behold and see the reward of the wicked.

Because thou hast made the Lord, which is my refuge, even the most High, thy habitation;

10 There shall no evil befall thee, neither shall any plague come nigh thy dwelling.

11 For he shall give his angels charge over thee, to keep thee in all thy ways.

12 They shall bear thee up in their hands, lest thou dash thy foot against a stone.

13 Thou shalt tread upon the lion and adder: the young lion and the dragon shalt thou trample under feet.

14 Because he hath set his love upon me, therefore will I deliver him: I will set him on high, because he hath known my name.

15 He shall call upon me, and I will answer him: I will be with him in trouble; I will deliver him, and honour him.

16 With long life will I satisfy him, and shew him my salvation.

Similar Poems for Reflection

Abide My Love, Dance with Me

Warmed and Filled

Renewal

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Sometimes depending on what we are dealing with in life, we feel the need for a refreshing from the Spirit of God himself. That is what this poem, Renewal, is all about: God refreshing our souls, and us totally immersed in him. Blessings!

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Renew my heart.

Renew my mind.

Renew my thoughts.

My soul entwined.

Your peace within.

Becomes my friend.

Your love without.

It makes me shout.

My spirit groans.

You make it known.

To God.

He sees.

It’s victory.

Other poems for Reflection:

Released

The Advancer

Gratitude, Gratitude

Why Not Me?

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Background on the Poem Why Not Me?

It is so easy as individuals, and particularly women, to get caught up in the cycle of the comparison trap. We wonder why God hasn’t fulfilled our very deep soul longing for our desires. We often forget that God is on a different timetable than ours. Praise him for his faithfulness as you wait for your breakthrough! God bless!

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Why Not Me?

Why her and not me?

I am gifted, don’t you see?

I have read all your word.

Practiced all that I’ve heard.

I sang in the choir.

Served others till I tired.

Yes, I know that you’re the one,

Praising me from morning’s dawn.

I also know when you are ready.

When others’ gain is not your petty.

And so, for now, just focus on me.

Your breakthrough is coming.

I guarantee.

Other poems to check out:

Trials

The Body

Episode 15: The Sin of Complaining

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Episode 15: The Sin of Complaining
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Background on the Sin of Complaining:

When was the last time that you complained? Was it this morning? Did you complain because you had to get up out of the bed, and you didn’t get enough sleep? Did you complain because you had to cook breakfast, and no one washed the dishes the night before?

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What about going to work? Did you complain about the fact that you barely had enough gas in the car to get to work? To make matters worse, someone cut you off on the way to the office, and then they mouthed a few words that you wish you hadn’t seen. We all complain at one time or another. However, complaining is sin, and it affects everyone else around us when we start doing it.

Take a listen to this week’s podcast to find out what complaining does, and how we can do less of it.

Outline of The Sin of Complaining Podcast

  • Six Truths That Come From the Sin of Complaining
  • Bible Verses to Meditate On:

Numbers 11:1-11 New International Version (NIV)

Fire From the Lord

11 Now the people complained about their hardships in the hearing of the Lord, and when he heard them his anger was aroused. Then fire from the Lord burned among them and consumed some of the outskirts of the camp. When the people cried out to Moses, he prayed to the Lord and the fire died down. So that place was called Taberah,[a]because fire from the Lord had burned among them.

Quail From the Lord

The rabble with them began to crave other food, and again the Israelites started wailing and said, “If only we had meat to eat! We remember the fish we ate in Egypt at no cost—also the cucumbers, melons, leeks, onions and garlic. But now we have lost our appetite; we never see anything but this manna!”

The manna was like coriander seed and looked like resin. The people went around gathering it, and then ground it in a hand mill or crushed it in a mortar. They cooked it in a pot or made it into loaves. And it tasted like something made with olive oil. When the dew settled on the camp at night, the manna also came down.

10 Moses heard the people of every family wailing at the entrance to their tents. The Lord became exceedingly angry, and Moses was troubled.11 He asked the Lord, “Why have you brought this trouble on your servant? What have I done to displease you that you put the burden of all these people on me?

Click here for the last podcast: Episode 14: Broken Pieces Introduction.

Vegetarian Bean Party

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Background on Vegetarian Bean Party

The last bean recipe that I posted, “Black Bean Mishmash“, can be found here. Today’s recipe is entitled Vegetarian Bean Party Bowl. Before we get to the recipe, I would like to take you on my reading adventure.

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Vegetarian Bean Party Bowl

. Today’s recipe is entitled Vegetarian Bean Party Bowl. Before we get to the recipe, I would like to take you on my reading adventure.

I have been reading “How People Grow” by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. I was excited because I found this book at Goodwill a few months ago, and I just started reading it a couple of weeks ago. It is one of those self-help books where once you get into it, it becomes very hard to put it down.

Like all self-help books, there are some concepts mentioned that we realize we are currently implementing that are fine. There are others that need fine-tuning. We have some that need some serious help; then there are some that we have known and implement, but the examples given makes things come more to life than they have ever been.

For me, it was the real-life examples of the effects of how the “Body of Christ” works. What I have noticed myself is that in order to reap the benefits of this “Body/community”, trust is of utmost importance, and then real vulnerability is easier to follow. When one person opens the door to honesty, then for sure others will follow.

Here is the Vegetarian Bean Party Bowl:

Activity: Making Vegetarian Bean Party Bowl

Total Prepping and Cooking Time: 35 Minutes

Ingredients:

1 can of vegetarian beans

1 small can of tomato paste

1/2 cup of arugula

1/4 cup of nutritional yeast

2 tablespoons of curry powder, onion powder, cumin, turmeric, and chili powder

1/3 cup of quinoa

1/2 cup of brown rice

1/4 cup of vegetable broth

Directions:

Bowl the ice and quinoa in two separate pots for 20 minutes.

While the grains are cooking, heat up beans in vegetable broth in a skillet for twenty minutes.

Add all ingredients to the skillet, stirring occasionally for another 15 minutes.

Enjoy!

Trials

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The last poem that I wrote was entitled “The Body“, and it can be found here. Today’s poem, Trials, is another poem that I was inspired to write during the ice storm last week. The one thing that makes everything feel right with the world is witnessing a rainbow after the storm. It is a gentle nod from God to remember yet another one of his sweet promises.

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Trials are like rain.

Can be so heavy.

Filled with disdain.

Coming down like cats and dogs.

So hard to see

In all this fog.

The dirt welcomes all the moisture.

As the onset of trials just feel like torture.

Then relief comes in the form of a bow.

With all the colors stacked up in a row.


“I won’t destroy in this way again.”

God reminds us we are his friends.

The Body

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Background on the Body

The last poem that I wrote was entitled “The Declaration”, and you can find that poem here.

God never makes a mistake with anything that he does. Just a few minutes ago, I was on Twitter doing some posting and scrolling, and I saw a post by Realistic Poetry. I decided to click on it and read it. They presented a challenge.

The challenge was to write a poem based upon two wooden figures leaning up against each other in a box. One figure has its arm slightly around the other figure. The first thought that came across my mind is whether or not I should enter the challenge. I’m glad that I did because God immediately gave me a poem.

The words that he gave me reminded me of how wonderful it is to be in the Body of Christ, doing life with believers who lift each other up, pray for each other, and bear one another’s burdens. Have a blessed Monday everyone!

I lean against you.

You lean against me.

Supporting each other.

It’s positioning you see.

But, then what will happen,

If one of us gets moved?

Will positioning change?

Will we stay in the groove?

Will the box even help?

Will it support us in pain?

Will the loss of “the Body”,

Bring way too much rain?

I lean against you.

You lean against me.

Supporting each other.

It’s positioning you see.

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Bible Verse for Meditation

1 Corinthians 12:12-27 King James Version (KJV)

12 For as the body is one, and hath many members, and all the members of that one body, being many, are one body: so also is Christ.

13 For by one Spirit are we all baptized into one body, whether we be Jews or Gentiles, whether we be bond or free; and have been all made to drink into one Spirit.

14 For the body is not one member, but many.

15 If the foot shall say, Because I am not the hand, I am not of the body; is it therefore not of the body?

16 And if the ear shall say, Because I am not the eye, I am not of the body; is it therefore not of the body?

17 If the whole body were an eye, where were the hearing? If the whole were hearing, where were the smelling?

18 But now hath God set the members every one of them in the body, as it hath pleased him.

19 And if they were all one member, where were the body?

20 But now are they many members, yet but one body.

21 And the eye cannot say unto the hand, I have no need of thee: nor again the head to the feet, I have no need of you.

22 Nay, much more those members of the body, which seem to be more feeble, are necessary:

23 And those members of the body, which we think to be less honourable, upon these we bestow more abundant honour; and our uncomely parts have more abundant comeliness.

24 For our comely parts have no need: but God hath tempered the body together, having given more abundant honour to that part which lacked.

25 That there should be no schism in the body; but that the members should have the same care one for another.

26 And whether one member suffer, all the members suffer with it; or one member be honoured, all the members rejoice with it.

27 Now ye are the body of Christ, and members in particular.