Valley of Grace: Healing Our Brokenness is a weekly podcast program that deals with living the Christian life. We dissect problems that arise from our brokenness, solutions for healing our brokenness, and apply the grace that we must give ourselves and others for issues that arise because of living in a broken world.
Episode 47: Enough for Everybody or The Scarcity Mindset Healing Our Brokenness Podcast Seri...
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Enough for Everybody Podcast Outline
Two Bird Observations
What Can We Learn from the Birds
Enough for Everybody
About a year ago, I was looking out of the
kitchen window, and I thought that what I was witnessing was a bird
fight. Instead of it being a fight, it was more like bullying.
Bullying among two birds. One robin decided that he wanted the other
robin to leave the grass. (Granted there was more than enough room for both of
them.) The second robin (victim) tried to stay there.
However, the first robin (bully), continued
to peck him. The second robin went over to the bird bath to relax
there. And what do you know? Mr. Bully came over there and pecked
him until he left that area. Eventually the second robin flew into the
happy face tree (someone literally drew a happy face on the tree itself) and
stayed there for a while. This made the bully very happy.
In the spring, I saw several birds in the
backyard after it rained. No one had the bullying and victim title.
They were all scavenging for food after it rained. They knew that there
was more than enough to go around.
God revealed something to me in that very
moment. Sometimes we are like the two birds from a year ago. We
feel that we are not satisfied until we are the only star. We feel that
there will not be enough of God’s grace, goodness, and mercy to go
around. We think we have to fight in order to get the blessings, or there
won’t be enough.
Other times, we are like the birds from the
spring, realizing that there is more than enough, God is the one who owns it
all, and is running it all.
The earth is the Lord‘s, and the fulness thereof; the world, and they that dwell therein. (Psalms
Even with whatever talent it is that he has
blessed us with, he has to tell the door to open and to close. Some of us
will be blessed with a lot, and some of us will be blessed with little. However, when we realize that there is more
than enough for everybody, then we can look to God, rather than other people to
receive the blessing.
“O my people, listen as I speak. Here are my
charges against you, O Israel: I am God, your
God! I have no
complaint about your sacrifices or the burnt
offerings you constantly offer.
But I do not need
the bulls from your barns or the goats from
your pens. For all the
animals of the forest are mine, and I own the
cattle on a thousand hills.
I know every bird
on the mountains, and all the
animals of the field are mine. If I were hungry,
I would not tell you, for all the world
is mine and everything in it.
eat the meat of bulls? Do I drink the
blood of goats? Make thankfulness
your sacrifice to God, and keep the vows
you made to the Most High. Then call on me
when you are in trouble, and I will rescue
you, and you will give
me glory.” (Psalms 50:7-15, NLT)
We thank you for the gifts that you have blessed us
with. We pray that you will help us to realize that we don’t have to
worry about being threatened by anyone else, because you have blessed all of us
with different gifts/talents that are unique to us. Please help us not to
compete, but to work together for your glory.
Episode 46: We Are All Qualified Healing Our Brokenness Podcast Seri...
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We Are All Qualified Podcast Outline
Qualifications for Job Positions
Qualifications for Prayer Warriors
5:13-18We Are All Qualified
Being a prayer warrior is one job that doesn’t require a special set of qualifications. We don’t have to worry about God looking at our application, and going, “No, I am sorry, but your resume doesn’t meet the qualifications for our idea candidate. I will keep your resume on file for a year just in case something else comes along.” We are all broken. And because of this brokenness, we are in the perfect position for God to use us. The bible gives us one example after the other of how God used a bunch of mixed up, messed up Christians to do his work. What does the scripture say about the combination of prayer and broken people?
“The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much. Elijah was a man with a nature like ours, and he prayed earnestly that it would not rain; and it did not rain on the land for three years and six months. And he prayed again, and the heaven gave rain, and the earth produced its fruit.” (James 5:17-18, KJV)
These verses hone us in on knowing what the requirements are to getting our prayers answered: 1) willing hearts, 2) consistency, and 3) fervency (intense passion). Let us all be mindful of this as we prepare our resume for review.
Dear God, We thank you for giving us examples in your Word of how you used broken people like us to pray and do your will. Please help us to be consistent and committed when it comes to getting our prayers answered. You tell us in your word that if we delight ourselves in you, that you will give us the desires of our heart.
Episode 45: Be Still: The Healing Aspect of Living with Trauma Healing Our Brokenness Podcast Seri...
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Be Still Podcast Outline
Definition of Still
Definition of Know
Dissection of Psalm 46: 10
What Happens With the Combo of Trauma and Constant Busyness
Good afternoon! Welcome to Healing Our Brokenness, episode 45,
Entitled, “Be Still:” The Healing Aspect of Living with Trauma on a Daily Basis”
What does it mean to be still?
Being still means without movement, without speech, calm,
I like to think of stillness as the act of eliminating busyness
In Psalm 46: 10, God tells us, “Be still and know that I am
To know means to be aware of through information and observation. For us to know something or someone, we must
spend time with that person or learning about that topic. If we want to know
God, we must quiet our spirits, stop the striving, distractions, busyness, and
do what is required to be in a relationship with him. If we want to heal from
trauma, we also need a stillness to exist.
This stillness required from healing that helps us to know
about our mind and body connection, can only happen when we purposefully have 2
things: time and space.
When we are busy every minute of the day, we don’t have time
to know our bodies. Our bodies reveal the secrets behind our emotions. Just recently, and recently being about 3
months ago, I started working a full-time job. After a month, I realized that I
needed to tweak my schedule for the weekend. I had to block out 3 hours on my weekend
mornings in order to make sure that I could continue having my time of
stillness. Without stillness, it is hard to gain clarity.
Before working full time, I had more time and space for this
stillness to occur. Now, since my schedule has changed, i must be more
intentional about giving myself margin.
Right before starting work with this job, I had a traumatic
event to occur. Along with learning new things at work, and relearning how to
drive after 30 years, I was exhibiting “ADHD-like” trauma symptoms, and having
a hard time focusing. I knew that it was
only a matter of time till the emotional effects of this event would come out. My
system had to be relaxed enough with stillness, and time and space to go
through the steps of processing everything that had gone down.
The first symptom that was exhibited was that of nausea. I
knew immediately that this was grief. And how was I able to tell that? Four
years ago, when I was living at my previous residence , I became very nauseated
one evening after eating. It was the
worst case ever. I thought that I was
coming down with the flu or some type of virus. It was also during this time
that I had not begun to process any of the traumatic events that had occurred in
the previous 3 years. My system was on
emotional and mental overload.
All of a sudden, before I knew it, I ended up regurgitating 3
to 4 times. In between each time, I felt like I needed to cry very deeply. This
is how I was able to make the connection that nausea for me equals the need for
grief to be released from my body. At
the time, my son asked me about the contents of what I ate that could have made
me so sick. I told him that I realized that it had nothing to do with the food
that I ate.
When I told my therapist about what happened, she said, “Yes,
this was definitely physiological.”
Another symptom that occurred recently is where my lips started
to become numb. I knew immediately that
this represented anger that I needed to work through. Once again, if I did not have the time within
the last few years to process some of the trauma, I would not have had a clue of
what was going on. I probably would have
gotten myself all worked up and anxious, perpetuating the problem.
I was then able to go to God and ask him, “What is this
anger about? Is it just this traumatic event, or something else along with it?”.
Having my time of stillness, and space for reflection allowed me to get to the
root of the problem so that I could start healing from, it. That anger had been coming out sideways for about
2 1/2 weeks.
Music is one of my main go-to’s for enabling me to process
trauma , and so when I added more of this into my time and space, I gained even
more wisdom and discernment , along with being able to release the grief from
my system through crying heavily.
Changes are good. However,
changes are only fully embraced once the old has been grieved. All of the “would
haves”, “should haves”, and “not any more’s”. If you are having problems
healing from trauma, ask yourself if you are allowing yourself the time and
space of sitting in God’s stillness. The
pain, loneliness, and loss have to be grieved. I don’t want to mislead you. There
will be pain in this process. There’s no way to go around it. And I promise
you, if there was, everyone would be signing up for it. There is God’s grace,
mercy, and presence there. And it is
very much needed. It is also in this stillness that our mind, body, soul, and
spirit will begin to reveal the answers to our questions. It will help us to
lead the way and or continue our journey to a life of thriving.
First, try starting off with one hour of lying down without
any distractions and see if you can notice the difference of what this new
stillness brings. Initially, it will feel very uncomfortable because you will
want to quickly fill up your time with busyness. However, this quiet time will
begin to declutter your mind and allow you to get to the root of your issues, along
with the help a therapist.
I hope that “Episode 45: ‘Be Still: The Healing Aspect Of
Living With Trauma’” has been beneficial to you in some way. If Healing Our
Brokenness is making a difference in your life, please leave a review, tag a
friend, and give a shout out on social media. God bless! Have a wonderful week!
Episode 44: Remembering the Sabbath Healing Our Brokenness Podcast Seri...
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Remembering the Sabbath Podcast Outline
Meaning of Sabbath
My Childhood Sabbath
Why Did God Create the Sabbath
Welcome to Healing Our Brokenness Episode 44: Remembering the Sabbath.
What does the word Sabbath mean?
Sabbath means to rest or to
cease. Sunday, the Sabbath, was my
favorite day of the week as a child. It
still is. It was a time when I knew that
I had that “rest easy” deep down in my soul kind of feeling. Sundays could be enjoyed to the fullest
because Saturday was used as a preparation day to deal with meals, clothes,
hair, cleaning, and laundry. On Sundays,
we went to church for a good portion of the day, and if there were no other
programs going on at church, we bought a soul food meal from the church, along
with pop and pound cake and headed home.
Other times, we stopped at the grocery store’s deli department to pick
up Kaiser rolls, crab meat or tuna, and muffins. The rest of the day was filled with reading,
listening to music, and enjoying family time.
Why did God
create the Sabbath? God created the
Sabbath for our benefit. God didn’t need
to rest, but he rested on the Sabbath as an example to us, to remember to take
time out to worship and rest in Him on this holy day: “Then God blessed the seventh day and
sanctified it, because in it He rested from all His work which God had
created and made.” (Genesis 2:3, NASB)
Another reason why God created the Sabbath is
to make sure that we don’t go back into a slavery mentality: “Remember that you were
slaves in Egypt and that the Lord your God brought you
out of there with a mighty hand and an outstretched arm. Therefore
the Lord your
God has commanded you to observe the Sabbath day.” (Deuteronomy 5: 15,
NIV) When you are slaves, there are no
breaks. You’re constantly on the
move. You wear yourselves out to the
point of exhaustion. Sabbath puts a
boundary around this mentality.
Observing Sabbath demonstrates to God that we know he is more than
capable of giving us the strength and endurance that we need to get things done
during the remaining six days. It forces
us to meditate on the fact that God’s gift of freedom given to us via the cross
Thank you for the
Sabbath. Thank you for the realization
that we don’t have to work ourselves to the point of exhaustion in order to
keep up. We praise you for your
promises, and the freedom that only you can give.
In your name we
Thank you for listening to Healing Our Brokenness Episode 44: Remembering the Sabbath. Have a blessed week!
Episode 43: The Big “D” Healing Our Brokenness Podcast Seri...
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Have you ever been divorced? Do you know of someone who has been divorced? When you found out that this person was divorced, did you treat them differently? Today’s podcast is entitled, “The Big “D”, and that “D” stands for divorce. Click above to listen to the latest podcast episode.
It has been said that divorce is worse than death. There was a time when the word divorce was taboo. Older television shows reflect these ideas. When children mentioned that their friends’ parents were getting divorced, they were shushed by their parents, and/or the parents came up with an excuse as to why Johnny or Susan couldn’t play at the neighbors’ house anymore. They were outcasts.
Prior to getting divorced, I heard
someone use the phrases “It’s no big deal.
People get divorced every day.”
This is true. However, what is
also true is that you don’t have people lined up to tell you the real impact
from divorce. Divorce leaves lifelong
effects in every area: financially,
emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually, etc. Basically, there is no table left
Grief experienced from divorce can be
draining. With this pain, you must
grieve the loss of the marriage, the loss of the family as a unit, and then
grieve that part of your identity that is being taken away. There is no magic formula for the intensity
of the pain or the amount of time that it will take to heal. My grief so far tends to run in spurts. The grief might be off and on all day for
three weeks, and then there is a month break before it starts up again. I have had other women tell me that theirs
was every day for two hours for the length of anywhere from two to five years.
There are some individuals who have
gotten divorced because of severe abuse that has gone on for years. In Malachi 2:16, we are told, “For the Lord, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for
one covereth violence with his garment, saith the Lord of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye
deal not treacherously.” (NASB)
It is possible for God to heal marriages from
any situation, even the ones listed above.
However, sometimes we make the mistake of thinking that one person can
fix the whole marriage. As individuals,
we can only do our part. We cannot be
the Holy Spirit for others. I am a
planner. I like organizing, analyzing,
and figuring things out. I thought that
if I could just do A, B, and C, things would be fine. If things weren’t getting better, it was
because I hadn’t figured out the right formula yet. Satan led me to believe that I was responsible
for the entire relationship.
He led me down the path of
dishonoring God, and disrespecting myself and children “all in the name of
love”. The best thing that we can do is
pray and ask God for wisdom and discernment, and then in turn get professional
help for ourselves. It is easy to pass
judgment upon others who are considering divorce. However, the truth is, only the individuals
involved in the marriage are aware of the severity of the situation. I stayed in a toxic situation for twenty
years. Thank God for Him getting a hold
of my heart and mind. We can pray the
same thing for others whom we know of that are walking in this path.
We thank you for your word to go to
when we are unsure, and don’t know where to turn. Please help us to help others by sending them
to your word and prayer when it comes to decisions about divorce. We also pray that we would not pass judgment
upon others when they are going through divorce because we don’t know the whole
story. Only you do.
Episode 42: Lessons from the Vine-Part 1 Healing Our Brokenness Podcast Seri...
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Lessons from the Vine Outline
Conversation with Coworker
Application to our lives
Good afternoon everyone!
Welcome to Healing our Brokenness episode 42, entitled, Lessons
from the Vine”. Have you ever received a lesson from a vine? What about the
illustration that God gives us in his word regarding the vine and the branches?
“I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in
you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.
This past week I was talking to a coworker of mine about how the flowers in my
front yard, the side of the house, and in the backyard were doing something weird
this year. It is as if they were confused due to a combination of lack of sun, cold
temperatures in May and June, and a variety of other reasons.
There were 2 flowers that we discussed. One is a vine, and the other is a burning
bush. The one that I will dissect today
is that of the burning bush. The burning
bush sits in front of my house. It literally has 4 different things going on
with it. The first situation is that there were some branches were no leaves were
produced. The second situation that was
going on was that there were branches with leaves that produced and is thriving.
The next situation that is going on is that some leaves were thriving but are
now dead. And the last situation was one
in which some of the Leaves had started turning their burgundy color as if fall
was approaching already. I decided to cut
off the dead withered leaves.
She brought it to my attention that it could be a perfect illustration
for our lives. Here is what God gave me as a lesson from the burning bush. There
are certain areas of our lives that are dead. They need to be cut out. The second lesson is
that there are some areas in our lives where we are trying to move too fast instead
of going through the process that God has for us. This could be due to seeing
others thriving and excelling in their businesses etc. The 3rd lesson from the burning bush is that
there are some areas in our lives that are right on target and maturing properly.
The last lesson from the burning bush is that there are areas of our lives where
immaturity exists, and therefore, there is no growth at all. These are the
areas that God wants to prune so that we can produce fruit and continue to grow.
Which one of these lessons do you identify with? I’m quite
sure that we can find a little bit of ourselves in each one of them. Let’s be
mindful of the areas that need growth, areas that are moving too fast, areas
that are dead, and the areas that are growing in maturity in Christ just fine.
Thank you for listening to “Healing Our Brokenness, episode
42, “Lessons from the Vine”. God bless
and have a wonderful week!
Episode 41: Fear in Control Healing Our Brokenness Podcast Seri...
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Fear in Control Outline
How Fear took over in my life.
Repetition of Satan’s Tactics.
Good afternoon! Welcome to “Healing our Brokenness”, Episode 41, entitled “Fear in Control”. How many of you have dealt with fear? How did it make you feel? Was your heart racing? Did you feel like you were losing your mind? Was your body shaking?
What is fear? Fear is
when we are perceiving something as a threat or danger to us. If you have dealt with any kind of trauma, or
have PTSD, you know that the fear part of the brain can get triggered. And then when this happens, All reasoning goes
out the door. We know what we know, but
because the fear brain has taken over, we cannot stop it. What happens is that
while the fear brain is in control, you become keenly aware that the fear is
irrational and needs to stop. You literally feel as if someone is behind you
and after you at the same time. I have experienced this several times. When it
happens, I usually get praise music in my head to let me know that I am OK. However,
I cannot stop the process of what the fear brain of PTSD / trauma is doing. It
has a mind of its own so to speak. No
amount of talking myself down helps me to calm down. I know that I just have to
wait it out.
When we think of dread it does not bring about a good
connotation. Dread makes you think of something awful taking place, another
form of extreme fear within itself. When
I was in my 20s, and I found myself having a health crisis, my life was filled with
fear that was out of control, and daily battles of dread of dying because of my
health. I am allowed Satan to get the best of me in my thoughts, and in my
spirit. Every day, as I waited for my thyroid condition to improve, Satan had
me trapped in a foot hold of fear and dread about me possibly going into
cardiac arrest and dying before getting to the point of feeling better.
What made it worse is that i was suffering from an extreme lack
of sleep. When you are going without
sleep for so long, it puts you quickly in a category for having a lot of other
things to take place. And some of those things include mental health issues, nervous
system issues, focusing issues, brain fog, and the inability to cope in
general. My lack of sleep coupled with dealing with trying to get my thyroid
under control for months made me the perfect bait for Satan to get a foothold.
And what were his lies? His lies were “This is it. You are
not going to make it”. Then after a while, I realized that I had gone about 6
months feeding into this mess. I have wasted all of the time that could have
been used enjoying myself locked into fear of dying.
As Christians, we are not exempt from dealing temptation and
spiritual warfare. We have God’s
promises even when we don’t feel like they are true or that he hears us or even
that he is near to us.
Hear are some scriptures to help you during times of fear
that I am currently implementing as I walk through releasing fear in certain areas
of my life:
13 I can do
all things through [a]Christ
who strengthens me.
Please cover us in your blood from the crown of our heads to the
soul of our feet. Please help us to know
that you are near. You are the same God
in every area of our lives, including fear.
Help us to remember this, even when we don’t feel it or can’t see it. I pray for a covering of hope, love, and peace.
In your name,
Thank you for listening to Healing our Brokenness, episode 41 entitled
“Fear in Control”.
Episode 40: Get Out Healing Our Brokenness Podcast Seri...
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Get Out Podcast Outline
When to Get Out
When did Joseph Get Out?
is one of those things that can sneak up on you out of nowhere. It helps us to
get a bigger sense of the difference between seeing and looking at something.
Back in the day when I was caught up in my shopping madness, I would see
something in the store after I had purchased everything I had already planned
on buying. Then, I had to go over to take a closer look, and then I ended up
back at the register, spending way more money than I planned. My time of escape
was right after seeing it, getting out of the store quick, fast, and in a
hurry. This is often how it is with temptation. We ignore that small window,
and then it’s too late.
word gives us example after example of this happening, while we are in our
minds going, “No that is not going to happen to me.” Even now,
because it was a stronghold in the past, I am constantly having to be on guard
when Satan tries to get me over to the looking side. All the feelings that were
back then come rushing back as a warning.
Corinthians 10:11-14 says:
These things happened to them as
examples and were written down as warnings for us, on whom the
culmination of the ages has come. So, if you think you are standing
firm, be careful that you don’t fall!
No temptation has overtaken you except
what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be
tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also
provide a way out so that you can endure it.