12 Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him.
13 When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone;14 but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed.15 Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.
16 Don’t be deceived, my dear brothers and sisters.17 Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.18 He chose to give us birth through the word of truth, that we might be a kind of firstfruits of all he created.
Listening and Doing
19 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,20 because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.
Last week, we discussed the Regulating Emotions Aspect of trauma. That post can be found here. We are starting another season, and along with changing seasons comes another issue: a ton of grief. Thus, this week’s discussion: The Changing Seasons Aspect: Living With and Healing from Trauma on a Daily Basis. For some reason, when you are living with and healing from PTSD/trauma on a daily basis, the grief from the changing of seasons comes with the territory. It usually takes about a good month of the season setting in before the grief eases up.
Analysis of the Grief
Unfortunately, when this happens it is usually not just one thing that you are grieving about. The changing of the seasons can take you through literally a good 15 to 20 different things from over the years that may have been done in that season. The best thing to do when this happens, is to allow the grief to come out. Holding it in only leads to more problems. The hard part about this particular time is that a lot of the grief feels raw. Even though you may feel like you are going backwards because of this rawness, you’re actually not. It’s one of the those that we have to ride out, just like the other trauma symptoms.
When the grief is this intense, I find it helpful to release from my stomach going upwards, if that makes any sense. What happens with trauma, is that the trauma and emotions get stuck somewhere inside of your body. When it is this hard and heavy, it is usually in the stomach area.
It wasn’t until I had enough courage to start releasing the grief that I understood the meaning of what one of my friends said. We were discussing grief one day, and she told me that her grief was always trapped in the midway point of her face. Some of the things that may help you out during this time are: